N is for No
You know, if there is one thing I’ve learned from all of this… it’s how to say No. Not just No, but Hell No. I’ve been accused of many things the past few months as the bitterness of the situation boiled over – with friends and others. I’ve admitted my faults in the situation openly and honestly here.
It’s a powerful word.
It means that I won’t participate. I won’t be there. I’m not giving/doing anything in the situation. Not something I like to say often, but something that’s necessary. It’s something that I have to say if I’m going to have a life.
Too often we get caught up in the needs of others and we forget to focus on ourselves. We don’t participate in our own lives as much as we do those of our friends and family; we don’t invest in ourselves enough. We overcommit ourselves; taking on every task with gusto… but focusing little on ourselves.
We have to learn to say no sometimes. It’s okay – it doesn’t hurt… trust me, I hear it all day long at work! But that’s alright – it doesn’t mean you don’t like someone (or maybe it does, I’m not judging) to tell them no… it means that you just can’t do what they’re asking.
You can’t be everything for everyone all of the time. You have to be in it for yourself once in awhile You can’t give everything, when you have nothing. Don’t let the well run dry and learn to say no.
Are you overcommitted? What’s one thing you just can’t say no to?